Anonymous Dad

Type of Dad: Dad with Multiples

What's unique about your experience because of the Type of Dad you are?

Being in the military and law enforcement presents unique challenges.

Please tell us what it's like to walk a mile in your shoes?

Saying goodnight to my children every night, knowing that anything can happen. Any given day, I may have to fight for my life to get home and see them again.

Who have you become since you became a father?

I continue to learn and grow because my children are doing the same. I've become a more calm and patient person thanks in part to them.

What are some of the unforgettable moments that you hold dear?

Watching my daughter be born. I caught a glimpse of the C-Section process, which was burned into my mind. Watching my son be born naturally was just as mind-boggling. The first time I held my daughter, I felt a change in my entire personality that was unexpected. Finally, when we brought my son home to our two-year-old daughter. She already had a nickname for him, which we still use to this day.

What are some of your challenges/wins as a Dad?

My problems include being deployed and having to be away from family for weeks at a time. Having to participate in homeschooling after work on occasion as well. Every time someone mentions how sweet, polite, or well behaved my kids are in public, I take as a win.

What/who are your influences/influencers?

My parents and in-laws are the most significant influences on me.

What were the three best decisions you've ever made as a Dad?

Deciding to homeschool the kids.

Giving them a variety of foods early in life.

Deciding not to hit them for disciplinary reasons.

How are you making an impact now with your family, community, life?

We've done a community clean up, but I'm currently working on having us do family cosplay at children's hospitals.

What's some of the best advice you've received as a man? Best advice you've given?

The best advice that comes to mind was from my father, who explained that children don't know or appreciate most of what we parents do, but at some point, they'll get it. The best advice I think I've given is advising people not to worry or panic; to be patient and intentional when confronted with problems.

How do you want to be remembered? What does legacy mean to you?

I want to be seen as a caring and wise leader. I want to pass on that ethic to as many people as possible.